Sunday 28 April 2013

Becoming a Stay at home Mum!

I held off writing this post for a good few weeks just in case the world wasn't on my side and our plans maybe fell through...luckily everything went swimmingly and guess what....I'm now a stay at home Mummy!


As some of you may know I only just returned to work at the end of January after my Maternity leave finished and wrote about my inpending return to work and my first days back, but after the initial 'OMG I have to leave my baby and start wearing work clothes again' (what...no more comfy pants) it turned out to be really great. The team I work with are all super stars, we all get on soooo well and talk about all the things you shouldn't really discuss in an open office, especially when your headset can beep any second! 

After being back a month or so the option for Redundancy reared its head, at first I didn't really think twice about taking it but after speaking with Matthew and also my friends I came to the conclusion that it could be a great opportunity to soak up all of Finley's first years with me being at home with him. 

Even though I have so many great friends at work, when I think about the job itself, was I still enjoying it...not really. Before I had Finners I used to love my job and put sooo much effort to be the best I could be at it...a keeno if you will haha. But since returning, I have too many other daily worries and thoughts to properly delve into advising on how to manage an employee who has shown up drunk at work...again! 
My mind is pre-occupied thinking about if Finley has eaten his breakfast okay?, is that sniffle he had before I left got worse? Has he started walking today and I missed it? eeekkk! Plus the fact he woke up every hour the night before is not helping my productivity today. 


Perhaps if I was working more than only two days it may have been easier to dive into work and really get involved in some juicy cases, but with me only being there a tiny snippit of the week I never managed to get that work head screwed back on fully. Plus I worked a Friday...that's not a proper work day...we got Bacon Butties and it was Dressdown, who can concentrate with all that going on.

After a weekend of calculating and discussing we took the plunge and decided that I would become a stay at home Mummy! Aggghhh!

I admit it I am a little scared, and had a slight mental panic attack when I singed the official leaving letters but feel very lucky that we are in a position that I can take this time with Finley whilst he is still so tiny.

Luckily one of my bestest friend Keri also left on the same day....we had a fab day of cakes, McDonalds breakfasts and maybe a few tears! We were spoilt rotten by the team and then headed out after work for some tea, a giggle and a few drinkies....now I hardly ever drink, maybe two or three times a year so after 2 glasses of Wine me and my friend Becky were expecting a lifetime ban from pizza express for laughing way too much and way too loud! Oh well, we still manged to sweet talk a discount from them hehe.


Of course I will miss my job so much, I have been there since I was 18 and achieved so much in the 5 1/2 years I worked there but everything comes to an end at some point and I have a really positive outlook for what the future holds. I don't know if I will be a stay at home Mummy for the rest of Finley's toddler'hood, (its all money dependant and possibly how sain I stay) but for the foreseeable future I can say that we will be having lots of family fun times. Lets just hope that the Sunshine is on its way so we can make the most of this time and have a fab Summer. 

If anyone else has any tips how to survive being a stay at home Mummy please let me know :) or if you are contemplating it I'd love to hear what you plan on doing in the future.

Love Kayleigh x

10 comments:

  1. Good luck, Kayleigh! You will love staying home :) I worked full time after my little Stinker was born a few years back, then got to stay home full time with him and his sister for the last year and a half. I start a new job tomorrow, and I am FREAKING OUT! I have never left my little miss for more than a few hours... and she's still nursing, so it's crazy stressful. I can't wait to get to stay home with them again! Enjoy the time with your little guy!

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    1. Hi April, I really hope your first day went well at your new job...the longest I left Finley for was a full day at work and couldnt wait to get home again...It has taught me I am definately not ready to leave him overnight just yet. Good Luck xx

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  2. I jumped at the chance of redundancy a few years back. I always wanted to be just a stay at home mum.

    Biggest tip I can give is make sure you still get to go hang out with friends without having Finley with you. I really noticed how it seemed I had very little identity as just being me and not just someones mummy. Even though I love being a mummy!

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    1. I really noticed a big difference when I went back to work and realised how 'mummyfied' I had become...I really need to keep up with the 'non baby' talk with my friends to keep me sain. xx

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  3. Good luck to you. I have stayed home since I had my first child, almost eight years now. I really like it. Some days are harder than others, of course, but that's like any job. I'm sure you're going to enjoy it. :)

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    1. Thanks so much Jennifer, now he is at that 'im always frustrated so I will tantrum' stage so I am sure there will be days I will think 'WHY?' but the time I will have now cant be replaced so I am really excited. xx

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  4. congrats keyleigh!! such an amazing opportunity. i find having structure in my week totally keeps me sane, we have various groups and friends we meet up with. plus i find i know soooo much about my home city now, what's free to go and see extra etc, this helps keep our weekly cost down but not our activities.
    have fun and enjoy :)

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    1. Thanks so much, great tips...I found on Maternity leave I just ploded along with my days but I really think I need to plan more, do more activities and generally have a fun time! :D I may draw up a planner and try to stick to it, and try to schedule some 'me time' in because I used to get a lunch hour....a whole hour for me to eat in peace, surf the net and not having to do the washing :D xx

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  5. Kayleigh, congratulations on making the jump. Wishing you all the very best. Cheers

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    1. Thanks so much Carole, I am a little nervous but I am sure that this is the best choice for us all at this time xx

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